Every now and again I want to say "Hey, World: Here's What" and just deliver a diatribe on what you (collectively) are doing wrong. Not to be an ass, but because I honestly can't comprehend why you're doing whatever it is that you're doing that's frustrating, baffling, and irking me. And it appears that today is you're lucky day.
People, I can't put it any more bluntly than this: Own Your Shit.
Whatever it is that you're doing – be it tangoing with a three-legged donkey in drag or making out with your boss's little sister – I don't care. Just take responsibility for it. Honestly. Be who you are, do what you do, but be accountable.
OWN YOUR SHIT.
I'm getting sick and f-ing tired of people doing something and then complaining about the fallout, making excuses for it or – even worse – being shocked that there IS a response. Come on now, people, we know this from science: Every action has an equal and opposite reaction, whether you anticipate it or not. (Oh, Newton: your Third Law of Motion actually explains a LOT about why playing hard to get actually, sadly, works. But I digress…) The thing is, though, you control your actions; you don't control the resulting reaction. So be accountable for what you do control, maybe even next time anticipating the outcome.
That Newton…he knew a thing or two, eh?