The mistake that straight people made,” Savage told me, “was imposing the monogamous expectation on men. Men were never expected to be monogamous. Men had concubines, mistresses and access to prostitutes, until everybody decided marriage had to be egalitarian and fairsey.” In the feminist revolution, rather than extending to women “the same latitude and license and pressure-release valve that men had always enjoyed,” we extended to men the confines women had always endured. “And it’s been a disaster for marriage.
Probably the best article I’ve ever read examining the different facets of commitment. Our lives are not “one size fits all”, so neither should our relationships subscribe to that theory.
I don’t know where exactly I stand on monogamy vs. nonmonogamy, but Dan Savage’s views on total honesty within a relationship are something I DO agree with.
Definitely worth a read.
