I’ve always thought that at the end of your life you’ll look back and everything will make sense. You’re in that place between life and death, when you get to review all that has come before, and through the magic of God and Heaven and all things spiritual, you’ll be given the missing puzzle pieces and you can see your life as a delicately woven tapestry of interconnectedness. You’ll understand why you met the people you did, figure out WHY they were in your life, be it for good or for bad. Things that we can’t explain in our earthly lives – why babies have to die, why God takes the people we love most away from us, why a loving God would put us through so much pain – make sense and give us the peace that we’re always desperately trying to find. We may just find the meaning of life, and as we (hopefully) walk through the pearly gates with all the worldly wisdom we can handle, we realize that all along we should have had patience that one day, we WOULD understand.
I’m trying, I really, really am.
Not a very patient person by any means, I believe in fate & destiny and that there’s a higher plan for us all, but also believe that it’s up to YOU to make fate happen. I feel that there’s not just one destiny for each of us, but many, many crossroads where we can choose one direction or the other. It’s the “Choose Your Own Adventure” concept of life, with various endings, each one brought on by the many choices that you have made over the years. For instance, if we hadn’t moved to my hometown and I hadn’t been friends w/Trisha I wouldn’t have known that her brother wanted to go to UNC so I wouldn’t have visited there my Junior year nor would I have gone to the UNC Summer program where I met Beth which was one of the reasons why I chose to apply to UNC and if I hadn’t gotten in late I wouldn’t have known Kelly and without Kelly I wouldn’t have known Brandy and Beth wouldn’t have known any of them and if Brandy hadn’t moved to Atlanta I wouldn’t have come down and visited her and drank at Rock Bottom and swore that I would move here and wouldn’t have applied to my job and wouldn’t have met Jessica without whom I wouldn’t have met Jake without whom I wouldn’t have met My Darling Roommate. So see? Because I knew Trisha, I can afford my house AND my car, with a three-TV sports room to boot. Circumstances + Choices = Fate & Destiny.
So in the midst of our saddest days, when we wonder if it is ever going to get any better than this, when we find ourselves still having dreams about our exes even though we think that things should be better by now*, we should at least try and remember that the next crossroads is just around the bend. And maybe – just maybe – we’ll find someone else standing at that crossroads, so we don’t have to make the decision alone.
I’m hoping, I really, really am.
* Note that for once, this isn’t about me!
AubreySabala.com 
I’m sorry…you have a three-tv sports room and you look the way you do, write the way you do and yet you are without a boyfriend? Are there no intelligent men in Atlanta? Good god.
Just like the end of Forrest Gump. Are we intended for a specific destiny, or are we floating around like a feather on a breeze? Maybe it’s both.
Welcome to the wonderful world of Open Theism. 😉
I know why you don’t have a boyfriend..you are annoying and very cheesy. Not to mention evrything about you seems very generic. Who do you think you are?
who was this last loser to post before me? How can you say things like that about Aubrey? She is amazing, and I really enjoyed this post, it made my bad day seem like there is a silver lining some where out there waiting for me!
It’s funny. The last person who posted, cowardly remaining nameless, thinks you are cheesy, generic and annoying. I would think that if this person were so turned off by your posts, they wouldn’t take the time to read them let alone make a comment about it. But it has come from my past experience that people like that are most often jealous, petty individuals that hate their life so much they have to knock anyone down that actually likes their life. So whoever you are, nameless blogger, get a life and stop envying Aubrey’s.
Dear Anonymous Commenter:
Gosh, thanks for stopping by! I bet Aubrey appreciates your enlightening insights almost as much as we faithful readers do. It’s amazing such an ‘annoying’, ‘generic’ girl somehow amassed a loyal fan base, and I’m sure with your guidance she could build a life as equally rich as yours in… Wait, what? You say you *have* no friends? No loyal fan base? That your life is an empty farce and that random strangers across the internet are crafting voodoo dolls in your likeness? Goodness, I can’t imagine why.
Drink bleach and die,
josh
So anyway, here’s some examples of form validation to require certain populated fields 😉
Wow, Anonymous Commenter, how’s the weather in Raleigh these days? Gotten over the snow?
As for “form validation”, I could require users to leave their emails & websites, but I’d rather have my site as an open forum. Where yes, even people that find me “generic” and “cheesy” can speak their minds. We all know posting w/o an address is simply insecure cowardice, so I suppose that speaks loudest of all.
And anyway, it’s at least good for a laugh. Me? Generic?
While not really a post about your post, albeit another good one, I just wanted to leave this info for any enterprising fan of yours…I think it’s what you’re looking for, though it is a tad large. Now who will be the big hero… http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=2599275836&category=60379
I really only meant the ‘name’ field being populated, which would still allow for ‘Guest’ or ‘Visitor’, etc. Just a thought…I guess since you’re not using a database, gathering names wouldn’t make much difference anyway. And lookie, she mentioned someone I know too!
And folks wonder why I require a name and an email address … 😉
I take it you have an idea about who this person might be, or where they live at least.
Wow. Wonderful, wonderful post. 🙂